I Have a HUGE HUGE HUGE Dilemma on my hands

[ajcardfan]

Shane, talk to the wife and talk to the hotel. Something can, and will, be worked out.

 

[Sandan]

You might ask her why she booked the date on a day when it was possible you could be already booked to go to a Playoff game ?

 

[Shane]

You might ask her why she booked the date on a day when it was possible you could be already booked to go to a Playoff game ?

Already know the answer. She doesnt care one bit about the Cards and I can honestly say she would have had no clue.

 

[thirty-two]

Shane, sit her down and talk it out. Express to her how MUCH this means to you. As long as you validate her hurt feelings, she might just relent.

 

[LVG]

Shane, sit her down and talk it out. Express to her how MUCH this means to you. As long as you validate her hurt feelings, she might just relent.

I think 32 nailed it on the head - that's your best shot. Will she understand if you slip the date for a week, or is she set in stone about this, and if so, why?

 

[titan]

inho, sit down with the wife tell her how much this game means to you, because you don't know how long before this may happen again. that she knows how big of a fan your are. then tell her its up to her, if she still wants to go than go. women have very long memories and this may not work out to go to the game but it will pay off down the road. you have a tough choice, damned if you do and damned if you don't. good luck.

 

[asuhoopsnut]

After being married for 24 years, I will tell you that the amount of guilt/sh... that she will give you for years to come is probably not worth it! You married guys know what I'm talking about. You will here things like "you let the whole family down", "you think of yourself before the family". blah, blah blah etc. etc. etc,. Just an idea ...... go to Vegas that weekend and then make the Super Bowl your once in a lifetime trip 2 weeks later!

 

[Cheesebeef]

shane... you live in Las Vegas, right? The Excalibur... it ain't going anywhere... right? EAT THE MONEY, work a couple (hundred) extra shifts to recoup the money and do family night... THE NEXT WEEKEND. Will your wife be pissed? Maybe. Will you be the worst version of Daddy Dearest/Super Passive Aggressive Man ruining family night anyway if you miss going to the greatest Cardinals game of all time? YES!

Shane, let me put it this way (and this is not meant to offend anyone), but would you tell your wife that the kids and a night out at a place that you could have a night out at any weekend of the year come first over Jesus' resurrection? Because the Cardinals playing at home with a chance to go the greatest game IN ALL OF SPORTS is basically the football equivalent of the second coming of Christ.

 

[Cheesebeef]

After being married for 24 years, I will tell you that the amount of guilt/sh... that she will give you for years to come is probably not worth it! You married guys know what I'm talking about. You will here things like "you let the whole family down", "you think of yourself before the family". blah, blah blah etc. etc. etc,. Just an idea ...... go to Vegas that weekend and then make the Super Bowl your once in a lifetime trip 2 weeks later!

Shane LIVES in Vegas.

Take extra shifts, sell blood or semen to recoup cost of the night, reschedule family night and buy your wife something pretty. Done and done.

 

[LVG]

I don't know if Shane has to eat the money - given the state of tourism in Vegas right now, he could probably get everything shifted for a week with little or no cost.

Especially because he's a local and because he's a cop.

[edit] - the pretty thing helps - run down to Tiff's and get her a $100 necklace. The price doesn't matter - the little blue box and the name is what she'll go gaga over (at least, my wife does).

 

[cardsfanmd]

Really Shane if you cant get that date moved for free then you just aren't trying. I am just a regular joe and I know I could make it happen. Your are a Police Officer in that district, this shouldn't be an issue in the least. If you are scared to move the date because that alone will infuriate her then that I get it believe me, but dont let something as small as making a few phone calls to higher-ups stop you.

If you dont want to or she wont let you move the date, then I hate to say it, but stay with the family. You know you will have a blast with them and they'll really appreciate the gesture. Sell the NFC Championship game tix and put the money towards flying out to Tampa to rock out with me at the Super Bowl.

 

[Ouchie-Z-Clown]

shane, i get your dilemma, and it's a difficult one. your wife did something really special in planning an event for your entire family. i think it's not even so much that you don't want to disappoint her and the kids, but you likely really WANT to do the excalibur thing. by the same token, as many before me have said, you just don't know when this opportunity presents itself again. i mean, the last time we were in the playoffs did we think it would be 10 years before we had this chance again? no. but that was the case. and this is the NFC CHAMPIONSHIP game. when the hell is that going to happen again?

i would hope that your wife, loving you enough to take the time, spend the money, and put forth the effort for the family night at excalibur would also love you enough, and know you well enough, to understand how huge this is for you. it takes a special heart to beat cardinal red for so many years. hopefully she gets that.

and i agree with many of the others that have posted . . . i'll bet excalibur would be willing to allow you to reschedule, even without giving them a bogus "i got rescheduled for work" excuse. you're a cop in vegas, spread the word around the precinct (or whatever) . . . i'm sure someone there has a contact within excalibur's management that can help you.

finally, if your wife is really having a difficult time over this, have her read this thread. i think it shows you to be a truly concerned family man. i think if push came to shove you'd be with your family without question. but hopefully she's big enough to understand that she can make two of your dreams come true with just a little understanding.

good luck brother.

btw, disregard my brother's rant. he's seemingly found religion.

 

[cardsfanmd]

BTW Shane, I recently had a similar dilemna and YOU told me to go to the game. Matter of fact, here is exactly what you said. And I quote:

Women come and go. You may not see another hom playoff game in your lifetime.

I hate to sound cold but thats how I see it. She will get over it if she truly wants to be with you.

Well go out saturday night and have a blast!

Does that answer your question?

 

[LoyaltyisaCurse]

Shane, not to make you worried, but I told my wife I was going to try and go to the game and she was upset that I wouldn't be around to spend a normal weekend at home.

When it comes to this kind of stuff with wives, you lose either way...

 

[Sandan]

Already know the answer. She doesnt care one bit about the Cards and I can honestly say she would have had no clue.

But does she care about your feelings

 

[Sandan]

is easy for me, wife is more football crazy than I am

 

[Jersey Girl]

Go To The Game!!!!!

 

[Goldfield]

If you push back the date dont make during the Cardinals Superbowl...

 

[Pariah]

Be with your family.

 

[NYCARDS]

Go with the family on the condition that she gives you her blessing and some $$ to go to Tampa and watch the Cards in the Super Bowl

 

[SoCal Cardfan]

Its meant to be a family night out enjoying whole thing with kids. SHe gonna be super uber mad.

Shane, I don't know you at all, but I do know you are a HUGE fan of this team.

If your wife doesn't get that you HAVE to be at this game, you might have married the wrong woman.

 

[Linderbee]

Go to the game. Bring your family. Your wife can keep your seat in your Element warm.

 

[Catfish]

Your wife and kids are presumably permanent fixtures in your life. The Cards are a pass-time. Sell the tickets to someone who has time to go to the game, preferably at a profit, and use that profit to offset the expense that your wife has already gone to in order to create the event that you have already committed to. Watch the game on TV with her in Las Vegas. This should be a win/win situation that will bring you long term standing in her eyes and those of your children.

 

[cardpa]

Shane, I loss my wife suddenly a little over a year ago after 26 years of marriage. I don't think its even a choice, you go with the family. I am not trying to put you on a guilt trip it's just where I'm coming from and understand how important family is.

You asked and I am giving you what I think.

 

[Spielman]

Football is important. Your family is more important. You're the only one who can judge just what kind of strain this could put on your marriage.

I will say that if you decide on the dinner over the game, you've gotta be committed to it. Doing what she wants you to do and being surly about it isn't going to do any good at all.