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I don't agree. It's actually common for battered women to return to the abuser. It's because of the psychological damage done by the act in the first place. Sometimes it's because of their own insecurities or verbal abuse that leads them to believe they can't do better.
My mother was never physically abused but mentally abused by my father. Dude was a mean drunk. She returned to him time and time again because he convinced her she couldn't do better and she also felt an obligation to keep the family together.
I don't think that makes her any less a victim just because she returns to that douche bag.
Isn't there a difference between your mom wanting to keep the family together and this woman choosing to marry him after this has occurred?
I think punishment on the perpetrator should be paramount, but its really hard to solve a problem when victims repeatedly put themselves in harms way even after something like this? Are we making the problem worse by not encouraging women in these situations to make responsible choices for themselves and their children? Do we think women are too weak minded to think or act on their own?
My grandmother left her abusing husband in the middle of the night. The moment he laid a hand on one of the boys, she was gone. She packed up 5 kids in the middle of the night and left. She raised all five by herself at great cost to her own lifestyle.
We have had public service advertising campaigns on everything else, I would love to see one on this. These should be the slogans:
1. If he hits you, dump him. DO NOT MARRY HIM! He will hit your children too.
2. YOU are responsible too, if you let your husband abuse your children. Get out! Now! Call the police!
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