Respect in the NBA on the floor is just about skills. This discussion is about playing in the NBA right?
The team Kobe has around him right now is way better supporting cast than shaq ever had, he better be able to do something with it. Titles are hard to win, but a playoff series, cmon, thats a joke. Memphis hasnt won a playoff series, while utah, mavs, suns, clippers and yes even the warriors have. The idea that kobe couldnt win one for 3 years is a sobering fact about his ability to carry a team or be a team leader when it counts. Kobes leadership skills(or lack thereof) are obvious by his pissing and moaning about his teammates in public. Leaders dont blame failures on everyone else in public. Perhaps kobe is coming around, he's a better team player than he ever was, but its taken quite a while for those skills to develop(10+ years?).
He didn't piss and moan about his teammates in public, ever. He said nothing about bynum other than to ship him out for Kidd (good thing that didn't happen). What he was bitching and moaning about was the front office not doing jack squat since the Shaq trade to help the team, something Phil also said. what happens? They move Cook and Evans for Ariza, great move, and Kwame for Gasol...great move. Bynum and farmar improve, and Kobe is happy.
BTW, the best team around shaq was better than what's around Kobe now and they lost in the Finals.
Kobe was also a Tim Thomas shot away from winning a series against the 2 seed, btw. Leading a team starting Kobe-Smush Parker-Lamar Odom-Luke Walton-Kwame Brown to a near upset of one of the best teams in the league is pretty damn impressive. Hell, taking that rag-tag to the playoffs in the first place is shocking.