Are you kidding me? Serious question. I know more than one woman who has literally sought protection from an abusive male partner only to be told that there is no real proof. It's the we-can't-do-anything-until-he-does-something deal and, even when he DOES do something, it often isn't quite enough.
Oh B.S. If I knew your name, I could have you served tomorrow with an order of protection. I dont even know who you are, and I could go in to any municipal court 8 hours from this moment and have an OOP issued and served on you that day free of charge. It would be up to you to fight it. Once in the court room, the burden of proof would be on me. If I could show the slightest signs of violence or even threats, the OOP will stand. It could possibly be amended if we had a reason to see each other (i.e., if we had a common child we would either exchange via willing 3rd party or meet in a conspicuous/public place), but if there were any merit to my claims (of violence and/or threats) whatsoever, the OOP would stand. I highly doubt your claims of having more than one woman you know unable to find protection from abusive males; either you are flat out making stuff up or you were buying the stuff they made up. There is plenty, PLENTY of notorious and conspicuous recourse to take on ANYONE for essentially NOTHING. Seriously, any cop will tell you this is an option for nearly any reason you call them out, it is that accessible.
Sorry you had a bad experience, but you can't assume all relationships are like yours. And, for the women I know who have gone through this, it isn't "helpless female crap." Yes, I know females (not women and not friends of mine) who have cried rape. I get that SOME men get a raw deal. But to dismiss someone who you do not know on the basis of your own past experience is, well, kinda ignorant.
I am actually a firefighter. One element to my job is having an intimate atmosphere with many of my colleagues since we eat together, live together, share hard times with one another, and spend 1/3 of our lives together (I actually spend more with the people I work with, since I dont ever get up 4 times after midnight to drive down the road for a call with my own family). Along with my job, I meet thousands of random people a year; many of these folks I meet at some of their worst moments. I hear their stories, see their homes, deal with their loose ends; between my co-workers, the people I serve, and my personal experiences, I see a lot of common denominators with the circus that is domestic relations.
I got to tell you; I have met a lot more women attempting to point out trauma on their bodies where I cant see any than I have met men attempting to show me the same injuries; most men dont report DV, and when they do, generally I see obvious injuries which fit their story (and it is usually a female who summonsed the 9-11 in the first place). I have had a few female patients who have had the holy **** kicked out of them by men too; I am hardly trying to say DV doesnt exist or say it is in any way justified. I'm just trying to give a "social workers" perspective of what I see, the frequency, and the no BS assessment. It's a hard fact that OVER 50% of the OOP's issued in 2011 were in concert with DV paperwork. DV is easily claimed by females and is a great tool to use during family court; If you raise the slightest flags with accusations of abuse, you now hold the upper hand. Rarely are accusers held accountable for fraudulent claims; its a matter of perception, and if it is unfounded its just that; unfounded, and everyone moves along (after what can be months and thousands of dollars to defend yourself/retain rights to your kids for frivolous accusations/claims). If you are a girl, you pretty much have nothing to loose and a lot to gain by starting such problems.
Personally, I already stated that I hope these allegations are untrue for multiple reasons. Domestic violence is wrong. Lying about it is wrong. Sucks.
I sit to pee, and so do other moderators on this board, so I STRONGLY suggest you tread lightly.
