There's this weird sense of more money equals more want in this (and probably all pro sports) league. We hear all the time, "I feel wanted" because a team was willing to pony up more for whatever the reason to retain or acquire a player. That somehow wanting to pay someone a fair market value means they don't want you. We just had that article quoting Frye saying he felt rejected because he wasn't the Suns first priority. They went to Portland and visited him just to let him know they wanted him back, but because he wasn't their first call or his he takes that to mean he wasn't wanted. I have a hard time understanding this ego drive, but I'm not a millionaire pro athlete. Maybe it just comes with the territory. I'm sure Bledsoe feels "slighted" to some degree because he's let the hype go to his head and likely feels the Suns should bow down to his envisioned value. It's a huge turn off for me and makes it really hard to root for people like this. Every time I hear one of these comments or hear these guys go on about what they are entitled to I like the NBA a little less. Sprewell and his feed his family idiocy always comes to mind and I want to throw up a little and change the channel due to my disgust. Do these people not see how blessed and lucky they are to have a natural ability to play a freaking game that allows them to make such ridiculous money? Look at how we fans talk about how a minimum vet contract is nothing. It's more a year than most of us will see in 10 or 20 years. Many people are concerned that society is becoming desensitized to violence because we see so much on tv and in the movies. I'm wondering if we aren't becoming desensitized to a persons value based on what we pay those who provide our entertainment. Ok, off my soapbox.
At this point I'm hoping for getting fair value when we dump this mess off on some other team.
No problem, I agree. I'd like to point out that we as a society should remember it's supposedly hard to see things from other people's perspective, or live in their shoes, but in all reality, it's quite easy for a sane person do this. You just have to spend the time thinking about it and be honest about the situation. If you do that, you really can walk in another man's shoes.
There is absolutely no legitimate reason for any of these idiots to get upset. The examples you bring up are entirely insane thinking on their part. It's not schizo type mental illness inducing hallucinations, but it IS a case of mental thinking being way off, and there is no legitimate reason for this to occur. Nothing justifiable by anything. Being this or that, doesn't change reality. One's perception might change, but perception is not reality. A perception can become the reality of history, but not because it was the sane/right/correct/optimal thing to do.
We as a society need to call idiocy out for being idiotic, or else we will watch the level of idiocy in our society grow in what seems like an exponential way. We can't give an out or legitimize this. Sadly lots of apologizers do just this.
I'm sure if you or anyone looks around they can find this sort of mental incongruence happening in many places, and that it is indeed speeding up. Sadly many people have deemed it acceptable, or the nature of things. It isn't. You're not crazy and neither am I. We are correctly seeing the idiocy of others and by espousing such facts we should not feel bad about it. It's those that want to pretend this is natural and just and correct that should feel bad, because they are helping perpetuate insanity that can only end badly for us all.
At the end of the day I still like Frye and enjoyed the positive production he would bring in various ways, but there is truth to understanding that it could of been more had he not had a brief lapse of mental fortitude and clarity.
We are all human so perhaps it was just a lapse at the exact wrong time, but at a very critical one. Interestingly enough, when the pressure is on, that's when clarity goes away for many. Pressure increase insanity. Frye must of felt quite a bit with Orlando's offer compared to not knowing what we were going to do. I can understand that, and I can also factor in any sort of potential deadline for the contract Orlando may have given Frye to be valid.
Indeed he took the biggest offer, but it almost sounded like he was trying to justify taking the money. He'll just have to live with more money in Orlando, and we'll have to hope Tolliver replaces him. But perhaps if Frye kept his thinking straight, maybe he's still here. Or perhaps if he had the honesty within himself to accept that it was all about the money for him (which he honestly might not have realized), he wouldn't of resulted to speaking on the record of perceived slights which simply don't pass mustard.
The more I think about it, the more I think Frye cracked under the pressure of having this offer on the table, and simply was not able to wait to figure out what the Suns were going to offer. I can accept that. Sometimes life forces decisions. But of course it was only forced because he forced it to begin with.
But nevertheless it doesn't change that he needed to find a way to cover for that in his own mind, and that through his decision process he conveniently found a way to allow himself to be unloyal to the Suns by perceiving a fake slight.
I think he manufactured that, and this allowed him to mentally take the better offer and feel good about it. Then speak it to a reporter as a way to bounce it off and justify it... make it real. This is one reason I truly believe our press lets us down. Since they just let whatever politician, CEO, sports star says at face value, they let all this crap just slide right on by when they really could influence or after the fact set things in the proper context.
The most important part of our way of life is that it was built off understanding that we are human beings who need to be checked at one time or another, and we should realize we've abandoned all of that. All (or nearly all) the checking mechanisms have been stripped away or abandoned, and that's why we see this sort of casual insanity reaching new heights and becoming ever more pervasive. Not just abandoning it, but celebrating our new found insanity. People defend it as if it's a good thing.
Here or there, an NBA guy signing, a CEO making a decision, whatever, isn't exactly huge. But collectively when what helps keep humans grounded and sane is gone, well then Houston we're going to have a problem. Because none of these guys is getting the proper framing or feedback from their decisions, they're just being coddled and their poor decisions defended. If you say such a structure almost guarantees the opposite of an optimal result, I would wholeheartedly agree.