yes you're a great man Bodha.
You clearly didn't get my point. I was going to the point of absurdity to make a point, you're saying she's responsible for her actions but you're absolving him of HIS responsibility for HIS actions. Adults are supposed to have enough self control to not break the face of someone that they have a disagreement with.
She didn't punch him she pushed him and then put her right hand on him, not sure if it was grabbing him or maybe at worst contact with the right hand. There's a very clear reason he lied to the police and said someone hit him in the face hard enough that it "felt like a dude hit me." there's no way he thought he'd been hit by a man, he was looking right at her, and the contact didn't even faze him. He just lost his temper and decked her, broke her face, knocked her unconscious and then just walked out like it didn't mean a thing to him.
He told police he hit her in self defense, that he thought it was a dude that hit him and so he defended himself. That's clearly a lie. Even if it is self defense adults don't have to hit another adult hard enough to break their face. Adults are supposed to have control of themselves, he clearly didn't at that time.