I'm beginning to realize that Meadow & AJ's main problems are because of Carmella. She's the worst kind of mother. She's a coddler & a criticizer. She coddles her kids, letting them stay at home all day, mooching money off her, leeching off her, basically doing whatever they want with no discipline. Then she criticizes their every move, always with the negative energy.
When she was away, Tony finally instilled some discipline in his son. The move with the job & the helmet through the truck window were great moves to get his point across. If anyone's gonna shape up AJ, it'd be him. He just needs to not go too far. But Tony's a tragic character, so he probably will go too far with the discipline, as Dr Melfi was explaining to him (the speech about intense discipline from parents leading to the child needing to dominate & control in their daily lives as adults).
Psychologically, Carmella's a mess. Great character IMO. Tony & Sil had the right idea about Vito, they wanted to be accepting, but in that business it's strictly don't ask, don't tell, & if it gets out, you're a dead man.
Phil's insane. How he killed Vito was just wrong. Then he's sitting there with her widow consoling her? Incredible.