Originally posted by ...tTs*...
yeah of course i am.
What i'm saying is that there are various degrees of adultery - some acts of this 'crime' are downright sinful; others are just mistakes. You simply can't categorise adultery into an easily definable black or white argument - human relationships are far too complicated for this. In fact you can't describe most things in a black or white manner. If you could, there'd be no need for the law - that is what lawyers do, they debate the grey areas.
I just can't believe how righteous some views are - seriously how can you not see that adultery can be a mistake? Marriage is a fine institution but where, amongst all its vows, does it have the power to control human feelings and emotions? It can't - as much as it's a contract between a man and a woman, a man can never truly control a woman and a woman can never truly control a man. Individuals are free spirits; free spirits with emotions and feelings that can't always be controlled no matter how hard one might try to suppress them. Throw in some alcohol and event he sternest man's judgement will be impaired. The way some here would judge an 'adulterer' sounds like they themselves have never sinned before.
Adultery is adultery is adultery.
Enough with the excuses. It's
never simply a "mistake."
If you do not think you can resist another person sexually, do not get married. Stay single and live your casual lifestyle...that's your choice. When you're ready to give yourself completely to one person and trust in them and respect them, then get married.
If you do get married and absolutely cannot resist someone else, get divorced. You're obviously not that committed to your spouse in that situation anyway.
Adultery is a conscious choice. A person doesn't temporarily forget that they're married, etc. It's all about self-gratification.
I can't speak for everyone that is very extreme on this subject, but I can say that I am coming down hard against Kobe for his adultery in part because that it is something I have never done and will never do. That's where I'm coming from in this debate. I am not perfect, but I have never cheated on my wife, or anyone I dated before I was married. If I had, it would be hypocritical of me to be so vocally against it...
If you honestly are able to explain it away as "a mistake" then you definitely do not think much of marriage in general. What a joke...