1) S3 finale was damn good but the end lost me, we are not having flashbacks anymore but flash forwards. Kinda kills the specualtion because you know they get off the island and everything is real
It was an interesting move to me because it causes me to really question whether I should be rooting for them to get off the island. It's a plot device that returns us to the original question: Why are they there?
2)I tried picking up on the small stuff but i kno i missed a lot prob
As the Native Americans once said, "Use the whole buffalo." I think the writers of this show have followed that advice, because there's really no such thing as small stuff. If you noticed a curious detail, it's there for a reason and will become a part of the show. You might discover more watching the seasons again. I've watched all 3 three times now.
3)I think pen's dad is the reason des in on the island
That's certainly something they've dangled out there since mid-Season 2. Personally, I think Des is there for a different reason. Almost every character has committed one of the 7 deadly sins, and we are to believe -- with hope, I guess -- that the island's purpose is for redemption of some sort. Like Purgatory. Des' sin would be pride. He could've just ran off with Penny, married her, and lived a life in spite of Charles Widmore. But he was compelled to earn the respect of Penny's father. He was too proud to do the right thing. His pride was injured.
4)Locke def started off as my fav character then right now sawyer is one of the few i like. I hate hurley he talks like hes 12, and jack is getting on my nerves
I will forever love Hurley and Locke remains my favorite, though the "sucker" storyline that has played out ... I fear we have been "sucked" into living out Locke's faith but in reality becoming suckers just like him. We'll have to see how it develops.
Jack was annoying to me by the second season. He continually disdains anyone with new information, anyone that challenges the decisions he's already made for the group. I might have whooped him good before the end of Season 2 if I had been in that group. He can be very irritating and self-righteous. There have been times where I wish Sayid would take him into the jungle and give him a good beating, just to bring him down a notch.
5) Nobody new sawyers real name until much later so how the hell was his name found on the manifest?
Hurley's really good at keeping secrets.
6) How did lockes dad get on the island?
Either there's a box, or it's hell (like he suggested), or he came in that submarine that the group had and was still conveniently running since the 50s. Pick anyone. I think this is going to have a "two sides to every story" X-Files-type explanation: Of course the Others were the ones that caused him to wreck, kidnapped him, and brought him to the island, but the island inspired it all.
7) Is micheal and walt still at sea? why no follow-up?
Personally, I'm convinced they wrote off Michael and Walt because (a) that storyline was dominating all others; (b) Harold Perrineau is not a great actor to demand all that screen time; and/or (c) they realized they Walt was too supernatural a character and they weren't ready to relinquish the audience to a full-on paranormal experience yet. We didn't really need a betrayal scene to already hate Michael. At least I didn't. I wanted him to drown. Beyond irritating. Why did Michael get to live and Eko have to die? There's no real justice on this island. Eko was the best character on the show, even better than Locke. Maybe that's why Eko had to die. Made me sad.
I was really happy to watch Charlie go. That was satisfying. He was becoming part of a post-post-modern Gilligan and Skipper with Hurley.
The show was better without them because it got the focus off the paranormal and back to telling stories of human frailty.
8) SOOOOOO many holes in the story, there are so many questions i hope 4 ties it in
Think of Lost like you would a novel. We're in the middle with about 200 pages left. You can't have plot holes in the middle of the book. If you make it this far, you're obligated -- as a literate person -- to give the author the benefit of the doubt.
My guess is Season 4 will end up forcing us to ask more questions than it will answer.
So how come you're not asking about Richard, who has a lot of aging to do? How come you're not asking what Rousseau's time was REALLY studying, and for whom? Who is Alvus Hanso really? These are the really good questions to be asking as we enter Season 4.